Many young people in their 20’s are struggling today because there is no road map for life after school. Up until the age of 18 or 22 (depending on if you went to college), life was structured and scheduled. You knew when to show up for class and what work you had to turn in to get a good grade. You knew if you earned enough credits you would graduate. But life after school is very different. Maybe you are in a job that you hate. Maybe your struggling to have a career. There is no one to tell you definitively if you should go back to school or move to a new city.
Sometimes the stress and pressure of all of these big life decisions is too much to handle.
Some of the Difficulties for 20-Somethings
*Struggles with romantic relationships: You may be feeling different pressures when it comes to relationships. Do you want to date just for fun, but feel like there is pressure for you to be thinking about marriage?
*Navigating parental relationships: They may still treat you like a kid or a teenager and you want to be treated like an adult.
*New friendships: You may feel lonely because you moved away from your home or college town and now you have to start over with making friends.
*Sexuality: You may be struggling with understanding your sexuality. There may be more openness among your peers to try out homosexuality or being transgender. This may come in direct conflict with how your parents generation views sexuality and can cause conflicts in families.
*Challenges of social media and technology: Millennials are the first generation that have grown up with social media. There is a lot to learn through trial and error with all of this new technology. It can affect your relationships, your career and your mental health. Social media can add to feelings of depression and other mental health issues. You may feel left out of what your peers are doing or that other peoples lives are better than your own. It can be difficult to know how much is too much and the fine line of when social media can be harmful to our psychological health.
*Career choices: You may have completed your education, but for many 20-somethings they still have to figure out what they can do with that degree. You may be able to rely on others to answer questions or tell you about their experiences, but ultimately you have to make this decision on your own. And what if you make the wrong one?
*Fear of Failure: Failure is something millennials as a whole avoid because they haven’t had that much experience with it. Is your fear of failure holding you back from doing something you really want to do? What if you could work through that fear of failure so you can live the life you really want?
If you are feeling overwhelmed by these feelings, seeking help from a licensed counselor can help you work through these transitions and develop healthy coping skills. Maybe you are shutting down, feeling depressed, or are so anxious about everything that you have started drinking more than you should or are having trouble coping with doing the activities of every day life.
A counselor can help you process these feelings and help you to be more confident.
You are not alone in this struggle, and you don’t have to let these feelings get in the way of following your dreams. A little help can go a long way to easing the transition to adulthood.